You Were Never Meant to be Compared

You were never meant to be compared!  This episode is all about stepping out of the comparison trap and into your own confidence.  When you are centered in truth rather than comparison, you are able to fully embrace who you are.  

You were never meant to be Compared!

Comparison is so deeply rooted in our society – it is everywhere. It is a trap that we easily fall into. I would like to share a powerful truth with you -that you were never meant to be compared! This is so fascinating to me because the world that we live in is so entrenched in comparison, and it’s hard for us to be able to dig out of that and truly come to love ourselves.

When we are rooted in comparison, we either put ourselves above other people or below other people. As we posture ourselves as being better than, or more than someone else, that’s a self-advocating posturing that just creates a feeling of pride within. When we posture ourselves in a self denigrating posturing, when, when we’re comparing ourselves to other people, then we think that we’re not good enough, or we’re not smart enough or thin enough or not adequate or not worthy.

By posturing ourselves in this way, we put ourselves in. A lower posturing and both of those, both pride and shame are rooted in comparison. And I don’t know about you, but neither one of those emotions feel very good to me. So when I get out of that comparison cycle, I feel so much better. And this is why, because our self.

Stand in your truth

When we are rooted in truth, rather than in comparison, then we know who we are. We know our identity, we know our worth and our value. And suddenly it opens up a whole new world of possibilities that we can love ourselves exactly as we are. And we can love other people exactly as they are, because we don’t have to pit ourselves against them.

When we are centered in the truth of our own identity and worth, and we shed the comparison, that’s where we find a place of, I am enough. I am whole, I am complete my needs matter. I trust myself and I am exactly who I should be in order to get to this place. You have to shed the skin of comparison, which is hard to do.

Our current society is very rooted, deeply rooted in comparison. And how awesome would that be to just shed that completely and just stand in our own confidence and identity and who we are to illustrate this point.

God’s Creations

I’m going to tell you about a few adventures that I went on one summer, so I love to be outdoors and I love to be in nature.

I always feel close to God that way. And I’m just in awe of the beauty of the earth. So I went on several adventures over the summer, like we usually do, and we went to a place called genlock reservoir. It’s a natural spillway for a reservoir when there’s excess water in that year. And it’s beautiful red rock and gorgeous waterfalls that are natural, it’s the whole side of this mountain. That’s just gorgeous. It’s such a beautiful display of the red rock and the white capped, um, waterfalls that come from that reservoir. It’s just beautiful. And then we found ourselves. Going to Nevada, to Lehman’s caves, it’s this underground cave that you wouldn’t even know existed unless someone knew it was there.

And there were stalactites and stalagmites, and they would meet from the ceiling to the floor, all caused by the water. Seeping through the mountain had created this cave and it was just magical – it was dark, but just amazing what had been created in this cavity in the earth. It was so cool. And then on that same trip, we took a hike up near the glacier and we went on some, on a trail that took us around some Alpine lakes and they were so high up that they froze all the way through during the winter time.

So they were this beautiful green color. No fish could live there because it froze completely through, but the color of the two Alpine lakes was just stunning. It looked fake, it was so clear and green, it was so stunning. And then we had the opportunity to go up our local canyon to a campground and it was.

Covered in grass, beautiful trees on the bend of a river. It was seriously just so picturesque, it was just gorgeous and it was tucked away and really hidden. So we had the place to ourselves and it was just gorgeous. So then we had another adventure through a slot canyon and the rock had all sorts of different colors throughout it.

There was red, there was white, there was yellow, there was black and it was completely a desert until you dropped down into this. Slotkin. And then it had a Creek that ran through and it was like this little hidden away racists. So when you came down into the slot canyon, it was just gorgeous. It seemed almost tropical.

And the stark contrast between the slick rock and the slot canyon Oasis was just incredible to see. And as I went on these adventures, Never once. Did I think that the cave should look like the bend at the river or that the natural spillway at the reservoir should look like the slot canyon and vice versa while I was there, I just noticed that each place had its own unique beauty and flow.

Each place was crafted with care that each place was perfectly imperfect and each place was exactly the way that it should be. And I got thinking about all of those places that I had visited, and if I was trying to compare one to another, it just wouldn’t seem right to compare it. Each one was so unique and crafted with care and it came to me that these creations were never meant to be compared.

Each destination was designed to be appreciated for their creation and unique features. And that is true with us, that we may live in a society that compares ourselves with other people, or it just is rooted in comparison. The truth is that we were never meant to be compared, we were created exactly as we should be!

Be Perfectly Imperfect

All of us are perfectly imperfect. And that’s what makes us unique and wonderful. And we are whole and complete, despite our imperfections. In fact, it’s our imperfections that make us unique and beautiful. So, and you can shed the skin of comparison. Then you can really, truly step into your own value and being confident in who you are.

You can stand in that place of, I am enough. I am worthy of love. I know that I am amazing. I’m an infinite soul in my needs matter. And I am exactly who I should be, but it requires us to step out of comparison and into what’s really true, which is that we are enough exactly how we. The other aspect of comparison is that it pits us against someone else.

And it brings in this level of competition when really. We need to be striving for our own growth, our own development. We’re all on our own path. By comparing our path with someone else’s path or our journey with someone else’s journey or ourselves with someone else, it only undermines our progress and it slows down our motivation.

So comparison breeds, competence. When thoughts of comparison enter our minds, really what happens is this subtle form of isolation it’s us against them, or it’s you against someone else. Right. And there’s, it’s only a question of who is better. There can only be one winner when our life is based in comparison.

Sometimes you win and you feel prideful and sometimes you lose and then you judge yourself as not enough and feel shame. As you can learn to see other people without comparing them, and we can stand in your own confidence and identity. That’s where true joy is found. So there’s this wonderful quote that many of us are familiar with.

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Isn’t that so true? Comparison really is the thief of joy. It robs us of our true feelings of self-worth and self-value that we are enough. So, how do we do this? How do we get rid of comparison? The first thing we need to do is notice when it’s happening and say, oh, there I go again, comparing myself and making a conscious choice not to do that.

This sometimes happens when we see other people accomplishing things or doing things well, we’ll naturally just compare ourselves to them. But if you can stop here and think what’s really true. Well, what’s really true is that I am enough and I’m exactly who I should be. And I am perfectly imperfect. And guess what?

So are, they were able to shed the comparison lens and really see in truth that someone else’s value is just the same as ours. We don’t have to have this self adulating or self denigrating posturing that just creates pride or shame that really we can be centered in truth and stand firm in knowing that my worth is fixed and unchangeable.

So is theirs and what they do and what they accomplish and who they are says nothing about them. What I do says nothing about them, that we’re both whole and complete and exactly how we should be.

Good luck shedding that skin of comparison and standing in truth. It really is a vital part of coming to love and know yourself and appreciate your worth and value and discovering your identity, shedding the cloak of comparison. Learn to stand in your own worth and value and stand in that confidence! You were Never Meant to be Compared!